The Dhance: You’re Not the Lone Ranger

As men, we often see ourselves as a “Lone Ranger,” who can do everything ourselves. As I recall my previous experience as a caregiver, in The Dhance, “Even though I rationally knew it was impossible to do everything necessary to care for [my previous wife], four children, my business and myself,” I repeatedly told myself, “I can do this.” Not surprising, after a year I had exhausted all my internal physical, psychological and spiritual resources. Even the Lone Ranger had Tonto to help him. I learned that turning to alcohol is a dead end and suicide is never the answer, after coming close in my first caregiver experience.

Acceptance is an awesome force. Accepting reality is the first step. You also can learn to cope in delving into the mind, life and acceptance of life and death that is the heart of Coy Cross’s experience related for all to learn from in “The Dhance”

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