Like turning up the heat on the stove, life can ‘boil over’ from the pressures you will face as a caregiver. Surviving the ‘pressure test’ often opens up areas within you that may not otherwise be discovered. This real need helps you learn that resources are there when you really need them. If you haven’t discovered the ‘Presence,’ that is ‘the Christ’ within all of us, as a caregiver you should arrange to meet at “The Dhance”.
“Carol Ruth calls the Holy Spirit, the final part of the Holy Trinity, the ‘catalytic agent’ or ‘connecting force’ that pushes me toward God. Her role, as she defines it, is to trigger a hunger, ‘maybe through anger and outrage’ that her students would release and allow ‘the flame of SPIRIT to become active’. In describing the experience, she says, “Much of the pain is caused by this pressure pushing on you to become vulnerable, open, awakened and available to a larger dimension of yourself.” If I am willing to ACCEPT the pain as growth and to ‘live at the full edge of my potential, then I am being born…into a new world.” Carol Ruth cautions that recognizing I am one with God will not necessarily make me healthier or wealthier.”
As The Door’s Jim Morrison wrote in rock music, you have to ‘break on through to the other side’ in your role as caregiver for another person. If you want to get more out you may need to experience high-pressure, or the pain you will likely experience as a caregiver, to get to the real payoff inside every person. You have greater strength than you may know.
Acceptance is an awesome force. Accepting reality is the force that drives forgiveness. You also can learn to cope in delving into the mind, life and acceptance of life and death that is the heart of Coy Cross’s experience related for all to learn from in “The Dhance” (Available from KohoPono Press, ISBN 978-0-9845424-2-0, visit kohopono.com or call 503-723-7392).